I’m Back!!

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Helllllooo! Im back! In the words of one of my favorites, @MARIEFORLEO a person has to shut down to come back with more passion and pressence. I had to make some changes. Previously I was writting from a place of disappointment and tragedy. Although I came from a positive place I felt as though I was still reliving the past and it was coming through in my work. So I stopped and restarted everything in my life.

Previously I had talked about dating and how I was finding myself and the love of myself and the love of my life. I found both. I needed to seperate from everything and focus on what was the best for me and my new relationship.

We bought a new home, moved, adjusted ourselves to fully living together; which is much harder than i had imagined; adjusted our children to our new “together life”, and had to organzie all of that before I could even think about coming back and writting again. Plus I had some technical issues that had to be dealt with.

All of that took over a year.My my my how the time flies. It still feels a bit strange to be getting back to the blog game, to be sharing my life again.

I thought I’d answer one of the most dangerous moments for any writer: The long break, and The Come Back.

I’ve seen writers who at a moments time, were interrupted for one reason or another, the days turned into weeks turned into months and they never were able to come back. It is a easy trap. Writting takes dicipline, ALOT! To sit down and write it all out takes work and time, time that can be used in many more productive ways in the eyes of other.  Don’t let long breaks destroy you!

So. Once you break your writing rhythm, how do you get it back?

Here’s my plan, and how I do it:

1) Your first day back will not be productive

You must know that your first day back after a long absence will not be as productive as a normal day. Not that any day is absolutley normal. Some days you have alot to say, and others you have Nada, zip, zilch, zero. It is okay. All writters are different.  Knowing this is the first stage of freaking out and not getting down on yourself. Don’t set page goals, don’t be hard on yourself. Just focus on getting your rhythm back. Read, find something that is instresting and think about it. That’s all you need to accomplish.

2) Don’t restart the novel

Instead of going right back to writting my book, and feeling the disappointment of that damn blinking cursor, start off by writing something, anything! E-mails, small blog past, a love letter you name it. Chances are you have inspiration that you have saved or pinned to your ever growing inspiration board on Pinterest. It’s easier to write anythan than trying figuring out what is your next chapter of the book.

3) Procrastination

This past weekend I watched a Soul TV episode with Steven Presscot and Oprah. I then devorded his book. http://www.stevenpressfield.com/the-war-of-art/

His book hit home. HARD!

There’s a secret that real writers know that wannabe writers don’t and the secret is this: it’s not the writing part that’s hard. What’s hard is sitting down to write.

What keeps us from sitting down is Resistance.

Most of us have two lives. The life we live, and the unlived life within us. Between the two stands Resistance.

Late at night have you experienced a vision of the person you might become, the work you could accomplish, the realized being you were meant to be? Are you a writer who doesn’t write, a painter who doesn’t paint, an entrepreneur who never starts a venture? Then you know what Resistance is.

Resistance will tell you anything to keep you from doing your work. It will perjure, fabricate, falsify; seduce, bully, cajole. Resistance is protean. It will assume any form, if that’s what it takes to deceive you. It will reason with you like a lawyer or jam a nine-millimeter in your face like a stick-up man. Resistance has no conscience. It understands nothing but power. Resistance cannot be negotiated with. It will pledge anything to get a deal, then double-cross you as soon as your back is turned. If you take Resistance at its word, you deserve everything you get. Resistance is always lying and always full of shit.”

All In all.. Resistance is seperating you from living the life you were meant to live. DO NOT LET IT!


Make yourself into opening up your novel and getting started again even if it feels like you are peeling off your own skin. I am forcing myself to sit still and write despite my huge lists of tasks that I need to complete.

It feels incredibly hard to start again. You may not remember where you left off. You had gotten used to filling your time binge watching Game Of Thrones. ( 🙂 )

Writing is hard. Getting back into writing is really, really hard.

So so whatever you have to do to get that file open. Cursing and chaining yourself to the desk or bed, whereever is your spot, just do not allow yourself to move untill words are wrote.

5) Just DO IT already

The first day back is just about getting back into it. It will not be your best day. It might not be fun. However once it is over, you did it. You overcame resistance and now you’re back in the saddle! Let inspiration flow. I personally fine it everywhere. Often at the most inoportune moments. So I have apps on my phone in which i can just record my ideas, write on my screen, save articles. I have a never ending supply of small notebooks stashed everywhere. Funny, I never have my correct pens though… Ill add those to my shopping list.

6) Find YOUR time

You found your way back into writing. Don’t waste it! Chase it as quickly as possible with a good, solid, uninterrupted, productive chunk of time. Now you’ll have momentum. So keep it up! Use any possible methods of inspiration. There are a plethora, just dont get lost in the world of inspiration and loose track of your own writing.


Shouting, “I’m back, baby!!” is strongly encouraged and will reengage your readers. You will start sharing again and people will ask which will keep you working. Plus, a little tidbit, It feels great!


Love to you all, I can assure you, No more year long breaks for me.

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In peace, love, and inspiration….


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